Yesterday I was in kind of a pissy mood as I started off to work–just generally unhappy and allowing myself to be plagued by petty grievances. On some level I knew I was just being silly, that everything really was all right. In a moment of clarity, probably gleaned while I was passing one of the many homeless people I see sitting or sleeping on the sidewalk during my short commute, I realized that I could probably sort myself out if I tried, just basically snap of it. But I needed something to get me out of my own way, something to make me remember that life is precious and beautiful, and often very fun.
The answer was sitting right in front of me, literally at my fingertips. iPod jack and car stereo. A twirl of the little clicky dial with a careful glance away from traffic now and then, just enough to steer me to the song that could both take me out of myself and bring me back home at the same time. It’s always a different song. Today I came across the song almost by accident, stopped clicking instinctively when I reached it just because I like hearing it so much. At the very least this song makes me sing out loud, which is in itself cathartic. But when I heard the opening notes and the very first line it resonated so strongly that I found myself in tears–grateful tears spilling over a widening smile.
And the song is…Dig, by Incubus.
It begins, so appropriately, with:
“We all have a weakness
But some of ours are easy to identify.”
Exactly. Simple enough, right? A general statement of being self-aware.
But then shortly afterwards Brandon Boyd pinpoints exactly what I’m feeling today, and what I’ve felt so many times, when I’ve let trivialities ruin my day and impede on my happy life and my loving relationship. Just nails it.
“We all have something that digs at us.
At least we dig each other.
So when weakness turns my ego up
I know you’ll count on the me from yesterday.
If I turn into another,
Dig me up from under what is covering
The better part of me.
Sing this song!
Remind me that we’ll always have each other
When everything else is gone.”
The me from yesterday, who was smiling and well-adjusted. Remember her? Please remember her for me today. That’s what this song asks and promises.
And that last bit, Remind me that we’ll always have each other/When everything else is gone? That is the gold, right there. This worry, this disappointment, this minor hurt, is just a little grain of sand on the beach when you remember that we have each other. We have so much. I have so much.
In the band’s official bio, lead singer Brandon Boyd says that the song “speaks to the importance of forgiveness and compassion.” Boy I’ll say it does.